Month: February 2006

  • ONE YEAR AGO YESTERDAY on the feast of St. Philothea , Alana and family became Orthodox Christians.

    Happy Anniversary to my Godchildren  Alana and Tim, Addison, Eli and Gwen!

    MAY GOD GRANT YOU ALL MANY YEARS!

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    My post from last year.

    On Saturday February 19th we had the most glorious day! After months of preparation we drove to the other end of the state to meet Alana and her family!! Alana is just as beautiful, godly , sweet funny and smart in person as she is online. He dh is a lovely man and her children are delightful. Our children played beautifully together all day long! My boys were so excited to meet their new God brothers and God sister. I have had a wonderful time preparing and buying all their crosses and new white clothing and presents. It was such a touching day, full of blessings and I am honored and privileged to be the family’s Godmother and to help Alana and Tim raise their children to love, worship and glorify Christ!

    Here we all are just after the children’s baptisms and Alana and her dh’s chrismations.

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    My Goddaughter Gwen in her baptism gown and bonnet.

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    My Godson! He was just beaming the whole day! That child is full of the love of Christ! He knew something special was happening and just kept looking up and smiling at me like that all during the service! He is a joy and a real little man of God! We bonded instantly! Amazing!

    Here he is is about to be immersed in the water 3 times.

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    Anointing with Holy Oil for the the receiving of the Holy Spirit (Chrismation).

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    My dh,  Fr. C. baptizing Addison (Adam)

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    Addison (Adam) being baptized in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. Look at that face!

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    Gwenovere (Genevieve) being baptized.

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    Alana’s dh, Tim being chrismated by Fr. Paul, with Holy Oil for the receiving of the Holy Spirit.

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    Receiving Holy Communion

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    My little guys taking it all in prayerfully.

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    My little Godson Elijah (Elias) receiving
    the Body and Blood of Christ for the first time.

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    Gwen and her lovely mommy Alana (Eleni)

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    Tim and Alana’s family “The Newly Illumined”

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    Beautiful baby Gwenovere (Genevieve)
    my darling and beloved Goddaughter

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    A happy and joyful little Eli.

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    A sleeping little angel!

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    Alana and me with all our children at the end of a beautiful day!

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  • I hope to have the time to do a “walk through Lent” on my blog, like I did last year. It was nice to be able  to share about the Lenten season in the Orthodox Church leading to and preparing us for the “Feast of Feasts”, Pascha! Many of my online friends will be experiencing Lent and Pascha for the first time as Orthodox Christians.

     

    ~Running the Good Race!~

     

    Dear Fathers, Parish Faithful & Friends in Christ,

     

         The current Olympic Games held in Torino, Italy, were initially of no particular interest to me.  I don’t remember hearing much about them until about a week before they began.  But once under way, I confess to have actually watched a good deal of the first week’s competition.   The high levels of excellence achieved and displayed by the athletes; the spirited competitiveness of the events; the international flavor imparted by the participants; and the unfolding of unexpected dramas that further elevate or deflate the Games’ competitors, combine in a unique and attractive manner for a viewer like myself.  Each sport seems to have its own peculiar attraction when up on the screen.  (Yet somehow the “sport” of curling stands out in marked isolation.  It either lifts you up into the rarified atmosphere of incomprehensibly esoteric rules and refined sportsmanship; or it makes you wonder:  is not this the missing wonder drug for insomniacs?)   However, I have to admit that the passivity of the viewing experience is in marked contrast to the energy of the athletes!

     

        This inevitably raises the old theme – already found in the New Testament – of making an analogy between the training of the committed athlete (or soldier), and the “training” of the Christian committed to the life in Christ.  Certainly, there exists an almost universal admiration for the dedicated athlete who will live in semi-monastic isolation from the world in order to perfect his/her skills to the highest level conceivable.  Life is put on hold and “the world” is temporarily forsaken for the goal of the singlemindedness essential to ensure absolute proficiency. Discipline and moderation in food and drink must be maintained, as the body must be fine-tuned.  No sacrifice is seen to be too great.  In fact, the greater the sacrifice made, the greater the mystique surrounding the athlete. In the pursuit of excellence (and gold) the athlete will pour out ”blood, sweat, and tears” if necessary.  All of this willingly embraced for the goal of mounting the podium and having a gold, silver or bronze medal draped over one’s neck in recognition of victory. This is the stuff of modern day heroes and heroines.  (Somewhat deflated today because even the eyes of the most dedicated athlete may be looking forward to the lucrative endorsement contracts virtually guaranteed by success).  Be that as it may, I find a great deal in the dedicated athelete for genuine admiration.  (But I am no fan of Bode’s).

     

         Since there is “nothing new under the sun,” this image of the ideal athlete was found in the ancient world in which the Olympic Games began and flourished.  St. Paul employed the above model in his reflections found in I COR. 9.  In direct reference to the Isthmian Games held in Corinth every three years, St. Paul writes the following:

     

            Do you not know that in a race all the runners compete, but only one receives the prize?

            So run that you may obtain it.  Every athlete exercises self-control in all things.  They do it to

            receive a perishable wreath, but we an imperishable.  Well, I do not run aimlessly, I do not box

            as one beating the air; but I pommel my body and subdue it, lest after preaching to others I

            myself should be disquaulified.  (I COR. 9:24-27)

     

        Images of running and boxing, two of the most popular atheletic contests of the time, are combined in this passage.  The apostle will “pommel” his body if necessary so that he will not be “disqualified” as he “races” for the imperishable crown of the high calling in Christ Jesus.  A laurel wreath or a gold medal can only serve as the dimmest of images compared to the imperishable life with Christ in His Kingdom.

     

         We will soon enter the arena of the lenten struggle.  Great Lent begins two weeks from today on March 6.  We will become ascetics, that is persons in “training,” who will practice discipline and moderation in what we eat and drink, and in  the activities that we pursue.  We will guard our minds and bodies from soul-destroying deeds, words or thoughts.  We will stive for victory over our passions, so that liberated from their bondage, we can experience the freedom that is found in Christ.  We will strive for singlemindedness and simplicity as we concentrate our time and energy on Christ.  To some extent, we will withdraw from “the world” so that we can concentrate on the Scriptures, prayer, our personal relationships, and the liturgical services particular to Great Lent.  We will have to push ourselves so as to overcome our laziness and desire for unending comfort.  We will have to “deny ourselves” and take up our personal crosses.  We will have to place God and neighbor at the center of our lives, and not our “selves.”  And none of this will be easy.       

     

         This may raise the following legitimate questions:  can we match the intensity, desire, and dedication of the athletes that we so much admire and perhaps are watching right now?   Can the “imperishable wreath” of the Kingdom be even more important for us as Christians, as the “perishable wreath” of victory for the athlete?  And are we willing to put our minds, hearts, and strength into the struggle?  If we fail to take Great Lent as seriously as the athlete does his pursuit of gold, then we  will need to re-evaluate our commitment to the Christian life.  But if we do, then the words of the Scriptures will strenghten us accordingly:


     

            Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside

            every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with perseverance the race that is

            set before us, looking to Jesus the pioneer and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set

            before him, endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne

            of God.  (HEB. 12:1-2)

     

       

          

     

     

    Fr. Steven C. Kostoff
    Christ the Savior/Holy Spirit Orthodox Church
    http://www.christthesavioroca.org

  • Last Sunday began the Triodion , a three week period leading up to Lent, beginning with the Sunday of the Publican and Pharisee. Today was the Sunday of the Prodigal Son.  Click on the underlined words to learn more and to see the icons of these Parables.


    Here is Fr. Steven Kostoff’s  ”Monday Morning Meditations” from last week.


    Dear Fathers, Parish Faithful & Friends in Christ,

     

    The contrast between religious pride and humility was presented to us yet again with the reading of the Parable of the  Publican and the Pharisee  at yesterday’s Liturgy.   Actually, yesterday was the Sunday of the Publican  and the Pharisee, and this commemoration inaugurated the pre-lenten season centered around  the superb cycle of Gospel readings that will hopefully prepare us for the beginning of Great Lent on March 6.  If we could only ponder these texts in our heart, then perhaps our heart will be ready for the liberating labors of Lent.

     

     Religious pride can also be termed self-righteousness, and it was abundantly exemplified in the prayer of the Pharisee.   Christ criticized this type of prayer because it placed greater emphasis on the self than on God.  The Pharisee seemed more intent on enumerating his virtues, rather than on praising and blessing God as the true Source of his “achievements.”   He was not criticized for his practices that including tithing and fasting, but for boasting that they somehow elevated him over “other men” found in the community.  These others include “extortioners, the unjust, adulterers, or even … this tax collector.”  (LK. 18:11)  No doubt such men were sinners that Christ would also call to repentance.   But in reading  into the heart of the Pharisee’s prayer, Christ uncovered the insidious presence of pride.  Pride glorifies and ultimately alienates the self from both God and neighbor.   Puffed up and bloated with an ever-expanding vision of self-importance and self-worth, the Pharisee had no “room” left for God.   Ironically and sadly, the Pharisee is spiritually bankrupt because he has been doing “spiritual” things in the wrong spirit.

     

    The publican (tax collector) had apparently done nothing right in his life for some time before entering the temple to pray one day.  He understood this and thus “would not even lift up his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, ‘God, be merciful to me a sinner’!”   (LK. 18:13)   And in yet another twist in this short parable, he is the one who “went down to his house justified rather than the other!”  (LK. 18:14)  His contrition revealed his humility.  In not choosing the false path of self-justification, he would find himself justified by God.  This surely implies a change of life on the part of the Publican.  Emptied of the self through self-condemnation, there is “room” for God to work in his heart.  Humility cultivates and fertilizes the heart so that the seeds of the Word can be planted and grow in abundance.   Humility serves to clarify our vision so that we behold the greatness of God and the equality of our neighbor.

     

    The final pronouncement of Christ is decisive:  “For every one who exalts himself will be humbled, but he who humbles himself will be exalted.”  (LK. 18:14)  This is a wonderful description of the self-emptying and glorification of Christ in His death and resurrection.   It was freely chosen, not simply imposed on Him.  He trusted that His Father would deliver Him, so the Lord could freely commend His spirit into His hands. 

     

    This parable does not encourage us to abandon the practices of our church life so that we can avoid the pitfall of pride!  It rather encourages and warns us against the subtle ways that pride that choke the seed planted in our hearts, by tempting us to elevate the self over God.  Prayer, fasting and almsgiving are the pathways to God, not prideful self-glorification, however piously couched.  If we like to think that, like the Publican, we have our moments of humility; then we need to confess that we also resemble the Pharisee in our pride.  The saints tell us that if we do not humble ourselves, than God will humble us.   

     

     

    Fr. Steven C. Kostoff
    Christ the Savior/Holy Spirit Orthodox Church
    http://www.christthesavioroca.org

     

  • I am sick again and I can’t believe it! It seems like every time I go out in public I pick up something.  The last three days I have been out and about with the children etc… My white count is low so it makes sense that I am vulnerable.  I take echinacea, slow iron, vitamins , drink chamomile tea and eat a balanced diet with lots of onions, garlic and oranges. I bought some black strap molasses to help my red count , but am not sure what to do with it, how to eat it. I also have been taking airborne.


    The only thing I don’t get is a regular work out but if I could ever get better here I was planning to start up at the gym again, it is only $15 a month and I think I have found an hour and a half in  the day that will actually work for our family.


    Also on a funny note Maria~Angelica can only roll one way which means I am on roll patrol all night!

  • I like Tamara’s post today so much that  I am going to post it on my blog too! We have had a busy and fun Valentine’s day, I hoped to have time to post some pictures later. We started the school day at Jonah’s nursery school party and ended it at Basil’s school party and in between we had lunch with our friends.


    Now for Tamara’s post about the woman at the well, St. Photini.










     

    The Rest of The Story


    Some things, I just never knew and never knew I could know.  Now that I’m learning what I never knew was possible to know, I’m just amazed.


    The life of St. Photini, the Woman at the Well  Who knew she had a name?  That’s not really the right question, is it, because of course she had a name.  But who knew anybody actually remembered her name?  Guess who remembers?  The Orthodox Church remembers.


    And especially important for today, the real reason we celebrate St. Valentine’s Day.  It’s not just about giving Hallmark more money for their fluffy and glitzy cards of red and pink.  Thanks, Beth, for the link. 

     

  • Okay Maria~Angelica just freaked my freak!


    (I think she freaked her freak too!)


    This is how I put her to sleep for her morning nap.









     











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    And this is how I found her! I got the SHOCK of my life when I walked into her room and saw her face up! I had no idea she could roll over. I don’t think she did either.   



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    I just told Nicholas that his baby sister rolled over today! And he said (while kissing her head) “Awww our little girl is growing up!”


    Here are a few more recent pictures.









     











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    With Jonah and Yiayia Angie










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    With mommy at the baby shower.


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    Praying hands.





























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    Peek-a-boo!


     

  • ~More Random Thoughts~


    Gretchen and Christopher have the most BEAUTIFUL little baby girl and their post are always so funny! Here is their blog. Their little Basil is a hoot too!


    After two weeks of fighting illnesses we are all healthy and looking forward to going to Church tomorrow. I also have a baby shower for my friend Stephanie, who is expecting her first boy after two little girls. I am taking Maria~Angelica with me. I am really looking forward to Church, brunch with my friends and putting my little girl in her new Ralph Lauren dress (that I found on sale) , tights and pink bow!


    I am getting more and more strength but haven’t been able to blog much lately because having more strength means having the desire to organize my house. I would like to have a place for everything and everything in its place. We have too much everything so I am working on paring down so we have enough places!  I like Mrs. Catherine’s blog and have been enjoying her pictures. I wear aprons too!


    I don’t know what direction to take this blog. When I started blogging I  mainly did it as a teaching tool and a  way to share about the ancient Christian Church, the Orthodox Church. Now we have a nice message board www.orthodoxchat.com .


    When I joined my first message board www.momys.com I discovered other parenting boards and learned a whole bunch about different theories of parenting and the various Christian parenting message  boards out there. From my time on those boards I realized that other Christians were not very familiar with my Christian tradition , Eastern Orthodoxy   and I really enjoyed sharing my faith.  I never knew that the majority of Christians from the Protestant tradition were not at all familiar with the early church, the Church Fathers and  the Ecumenical councils. I was at the Christian bookstore yesterday and there really is nothing on the early Church and Eastern Christendom. What struck me most is just what a business a huge industry the Christian market is. So many fads and new fangled books and very little from the 2000 years of Apostolic  tradition handed down from Christ to the apostles  that we are blessed with in the Holy Orthodox Church.


    From my time on line I have been very blessed to come in touch with those seeking the ancient Christian faith and have had the joy of seeing them and their families christmated and baptized; even having the honor to become a godparent to a family I had met on line.


    So many amazing things have happened in the last two years which have deepened my faith in Christ and His Church and educated me on other Christian traditions. This has been very helpful to me since our own children attend a Classical and Christian school in the Reformed tradition.


    Why am I sharing all this with you? Just because I have some corresponded I need to respond too and I am formulating my thoughts.


    So about the direction my blog should take. It started out to be a witness to Orthodoxy and has become much more personal.  Real friendships have come out of blogging, a couple Christian parenting boards and www.orthodoxchat.com .


    Lent and Pascha are soon approaching and I was on bed rest last year and wasn’t able to go to Church.  Last year I  watched  the Orthodox services  live from Greece and blogged  about Lent, Holy Week and Pascha (Easter) day by day with explanations from www.goarch.org . Now though I think the majority of my readers are either Orthodox Christians themselves or are familiar with the Church year. 


    I am so grateful for the many Christian friendships I have made online from ALL traditions! You all have been a blessing to me! I enjoy reading about your families and learning from you.


    Re. Lisa H.’s  comments about the name Joaquin and the historic Joachim. If Maria~Angelica was a boy we were going to name him Joachim. Here is a thread from GM where I talk about that. I shared that with Lisa on Becky’s blog.


    Well I hope to post some pics soon.  And to those of you that have sent me e-mails and I haven’t  responded, do know that I am reading them and your blogs but don’t always have the time or a hand free to type in a response. I do pray for you all and light a candle for you at Church.


    Have a blessed Sunday!


    ~GLORY BE TO GOD FOR ALL THINGS!!~ 


     

  • ~ Random Thoughts~


    The Grammy’s were great last night! Green Day and U2 rock!


    I can’t sleep at night, but the baby can and very well I might add!


    I am very hyper today on very little sleep but getting a lot done!


    Today is beautifully sunny but cold, with a glistening dusting of snow.


    We are getting excited around here to watch the Winter Olympics!


    Jonah is so funny, 5 is such a great age!


    Basil and Nicholas are so cute doing their homework at the kitchen table with their Dad guiding them. I am so proud of them and their good work at school and home they both received very good report cards and make us so proud.


    The baby fell asleep in her highchair this morning and was all curled up, the chair reclines and she looked so sweet; I transferred her to her bed and she was happy.


    My husband is a very patient man and being a priest is hard work.


    My parents were so helpful when we were sick, thank you so much to them and to my friends that love and care for us so much I am so grateful!


    I am still very upset about  baby Lillian and Rachel. Praying for their families.


    Neil Entwistle was arrested today. http://www.cnn.com/2006/US/02/09/entwistle.arrest/


     

  • The last two nights Maria~Angelica has slept through the night about 9 hours straight! You would think that was good news, but I spend 7 of those hours worrying about her! I go in and out of her room to make sure she is breathing all throughout the night.  Over the weekend I put her in her own room because our coughing was waking her. She is still so little and leaving her in her own room is so daunting! She  hasn’t out grown her Moses basket and she looks so lost in her crib so  I have placed her Moses basket  inside her crib and she sleeps so cozy and peacefully; she hasn’t had any gas pains for the last two nights.


    I have gone through this with all my babies; I worry about them and find it VERY hard to fall asleep with them in their own rooms. They all have icons in their rooms  and I have always prayed for them asking  the Mother of God and all the Angels to protect them and then I make the sign of  the cross over them or Fr. blesses them. That should give me peace of mind…..but I still can’t sleep peacefully. Please Lord give me peace of mind to know you are watching over my children and please bless and protect them.


    I am also very haunted by the death of poor little Lillian Entwistle and her mother Rachel. The pictures of that cute little baby girl are constantly in my mind. Last night I just tossed and turned thinking about this young family and the great pain their friends and family must be in and how sad it is that that sweet little baby will never grow up.  I think it is a combination of just having had a baby girl  myself and also the connection we have with England. Fr. and I were both students in England. We met through the Church and our friendships in London then we married and lived there for many years. Basil was also born in England like little Lillian.


    May God give rest to the souls of Lillian and Rachel and may he have Mercy on the person that took their precious lives.